Don’t pop the bubbly just yet. The first year of marriage, compared to the high of wedding planning, may seem difficult, if not slightly depressing. Cheer up, young bucks and honeymooners, and take solace in the fact that you’re not alone. Recent studies show that newlyweds are less happy in their first year than couples who have been married for 40 or more years.
Let’s just hope marriage doesn’t have a terrible 2′s phase.
Read all the details from the study in this Huffington Post Weddings piece, “Honeymoon Phase Is A Myth, Study Finds.”
Lots of <3,
“So often when we choose relationships, we try to fit another person into our predetermined ideal. When they don’t fit perfectly, we may try to make them over, creating our own vision from the raw material they’ve brought. But unless someone asks for guidance and direction, entering into a relationship with someone we want to change is dishonest.” – Today’s Daily Om.
Raise your hand if you’ve ever thought you could change a guy. Yep, all of us are guilty of it at some point or another. In “8 Insights to Keep Love Alive in Intimate Relationships,” Psych Central delivers a tip worth pondering: maybe you’re the one who needs changing? Read on for more valuable insights, including advice that you should give more love when you want more love (bingo!), here: http://blogs.psychcentral.com/parenting-tips/2012/07/8-insights-to-keep-love-alive-in-intimate-relationships/
It’s time to put some more thought into our relationships!
Lots of <3,
p.s. – I am overjoyed that Jef won the Bachelorette and will promptly begin my withdrawal phase from the show.
“Of course you have rough times. You know how it goes. When you come home and you stink, your dog still loves you. There are days your dog gives you attitude. That’s just natural hanging out with someone. I just wake up every day…I remember I am negotiating from the moment I wake up with my daughter and my wife.”- Denis Leary on the Bethenny show.
“Someone told me to go f*** myself, so I did.” – Leary about how he and his wife share an uncanny resemblance.
You wouldn’t rather be with anyone else, but taking time apart from your spouse could be key to longevity. According to a study by psychologist Terri Orbuch written up in The Wall Street Journal’s “Need Space in a Relationship? Just Don’t Say It That Way? “ , 29 percent of couples said they needed more “me” time (373 married couples were surveyed over 25 years). Women found it more difficult than men to find solo sanctuary; namely due to responsibilities taking care of children, elders, or seeing friends.
Also striking: Of those couples who found themselves “unhappy” in their relationships, not enough alone time beat out an unsatisfactory sex life!
Keep up the sex and then one of you PLEASE get out of the bedroom.
Lots of <3,