Here are some Relationship Dos and Don’ts that I just had to share, culled from a recent study published in the Journal of Family Psychology and covered by The Atlantic. The study peered into couples who reported marriage satisfaction in the first four years – and then those whose relationships subsequently dissolved – to glean some keen observations about relationship success.
1. DO find happiness with your own life first! “…having more life satisfaction increased one’s odds for a happy marriage,” the article points out. The writer continues that life satisfaction can also “predict” a happy marriage.
2. DO communicate. This is a common thread throughout almost all of my posts. Proper communication is vital.
3. DON’T blame, invalidate, be pessimistic or discourage. The article states: “…the couples who went on to divorce were more likely to use blame and invalidation in their communication efforts. They were more likely to discourage a spouse from expressing his or her feelings, and to display “inappropriate pessimism.” Husbands who were more verbally aggressive early on were also more likely to be part of couples who went on to divorce later.”
Read the full article here:
Now start practicing!
Lots of <3,