To couples grappling with daily job stress (both people):
If you’ve had a hard day at work, making a point that you’ve been put through the ringer more so than your spouse isn’t going to do much to help your relationship in the long run. Lean on each other and dole out support when needed. Listen to each other, don’t let the stress fester, and don’t spend undue time unloading. You might find yourself feeling stronger in your relationship at home – and at work in the form of more concentration and feeling less tired when you come home- if you do so, according to a recent Florida State University College of Business study discussed in this The Telegraph article.
“Common elements of the most supportive relationships were that each spouse was aware of the daily work demands on the other, they felt they could talk any time, did not try to distance themselves, did not bombard the family with minor work irritations and did not try to compete with who had had the worse day,” the article states.