The view is certainly nice up here in married land. Though that doesn’t mean I’ve forgotten the dating labyrinth I was mired in as a single girl not too long ago, where I flocked from bars to blind dates to online dating sites looking for that person. I had fun, but the routine was in many ways deflating. Everyone needs encouragement that he or she is still out there despite whatever odds; however many duds and pitiful first kisses. With that, I’ve dedicated this post as encouragement – - to guide the Ms. for a change.
At 43, author Jane Atkinson wasn’t sure she’d meet her perfect mate…the yin to her yang … the Ricky to her Lucy…the Prince William to her Kate Middleton. “I had always told myself that when I was ready, truly ready, it would happen. But as the years had ticked by, I started to wonder, ‘Would I ever meet The One?,’” she writes in the intro to her book, “The Frog Whisperer: A 3-Step Approach to Finding Lasting Love.” Eventually, she did find The One. How? By sifting through a whole lots of frogs first, of course! More important, however, is her message about being content with yourself and radiating that out to the world. “I saved myself first, and then he came along,” she continues. I am a firm believer in this. Here are some other helpful tips from the book for any of your friends who are down in the dumps about dating.
-”If your mantra is ‘There are no good men left out there,’ that may just become your reality. However, if you feel great about yourself and move into the world with an ‘I’m fabulous! Men, come on down and meet me!’ attitude, you may find your results more positive.”
-”When we attain a state of happiness within ourselves (loving ourselves) prior to finding love with another, we’ll be putting out the best vibe possible. In turn, that will bring more suitable prospects to our door.”
-”Being out doing what you love is the best place to shine brightly. When you are shining, you’ll be attracting others.”
Hope these great tips spread on through the loveosphere like wildfire!
Lots of <3 (you know it),